They profit from engagement–keeping you swiping, scrolling, and coming back for more. The longer you stay single and anxious, the more valuable you become. Every pixel is optimized to increase screen time, not real-world connection. Their “safety features” are crumbs on top of a system that was not created for you.

This creates a myriad of issues: prolonged digital engagement with strangers, ambiguous interactions, and a culture where "wanna come over?" passes as a date. The surface area for harm is enormous when you're encouraged to have endless low-stakes interactions instead of intentional, meaningful ones.

We profit when you go on dates, not when you endlessly swipe. When you book an experience and show up, we win. Our model works only when you do. Your success means closing the app and living your life.

Does that eliminate risk? No.

Does it reduce the severity of potential harm? No–meeting in person carries a greater risk than messaging someone you've never met.

We know. And we've built accordingly.

Picture two scenarios:

This is structural safety. Not a feature you toggle on. Not a hotline you call in crisis. The architecture of how dates are planned on Chaos removes ambiguity, forces intentionality, and gives you clarity before you ever meet someone. And clarity is safety.

Chaos is not for everyone. And that's exactly why it works. The kind of person who takes time to build a thoughtful Datebook–full of specific restaurants, cultural events, hidden gems–is fundamentally different from someone mindlessly swiping while watching TV.

Our experience-first model is a barrier. It requires effort, vulnerability, and intention.

Low effort doesn’t build Datebooks, or real connections. People seeking quick validation don't spend time researching date ideas. The person who starts with "wanna come over?" won't thrive in an app designed for pre-planned, public, structured dates.

This is what we mean by self-selection. We're not just filtering out bad actors through verification and moderation (though we do that too). We're creating an environment where the wrong people don't show up in the first place.

When you match with someone on Chaos, you're matching with someone who:

• Took time to curate meaningful experiences they actually want to have
• Is willing to co-plan a date instead of expecting you to carry the emotional labor
• Values real connection enough to commit to a specific time and place
• Shares your goal: getting off the app and into something real

That's a different starting point than "I swiped right because you're hot." And different starting points create different outcomes.

We get you to in-person dates faster than traditional apps. That's our entire purpose. But here's the hard truth: in-person dates carry risk. We don't shy away from that responsibility. We lean into it.

Before the date: We give you the tools to prepare. You can share your full plan–venue, time, who you're meeting–with trusted contacts. You know where you're going because you planned it together. There's transparency baked into the structure.

During the date: We check in with you. Not intrusively, but in a way that reminds you that we're still here. You can respond with a tap. If you don't, we follow up. And if something's wrong, we offer immediate support.

After the date: We follow up again. We ask how it went. You have space to report concerning behavior. Your feedback protects not just you, but everyone who comes after you.

Traditional apps protect you while you're swiping and then disappear when you finally meet. We've flipped that. We show up when it matters most: when you close the app and step into the real world.

We don't make money from ads, so we don't need to maximize your screen time. We don't profit from subscription renewals that depend on you staying single, so we don't manufacture FOMO or artificial scarcity. And we don't benefit from keeping you in a state of anxious uncertainty.

Our revenue comes from facilitating great dates. That's it. When you book an experience through Chaos, we succeed. When you have a terrible date, ghost someone, or get stuck in endless messaging, we've failed.

This alignment means:

• We won’t show you "one more" profile when you've found someone you like
• We don't algorithmically hide your best matches to keep you searching
• We don't blur profiles or create artificial delays to trigger anxiety
• We don't gamify the experience to feel like a slot machine

We’re not here to keep you scrolling. We’re here for you to meet someone worth logging off for. That's success. That's the model.

Safety isn't something we do to you or for you. It's something we build with you.

Show up with intention. Build a Datebook that reflects who you actually are. Be honest in your profile. Use DateBuilder to create clear plans. Tell a trusted friend where you're going. Check in when we ask. Trust your instincts. And if someone violates the standards of our community, tell us.

We'll handle our part: curating the community, designing for clarity, checking in when it matters, taking action when standards are violated, and never profiting from your anxiety. You handle yours: showing up as yourself, communicating clearly, honoring boundaries (yours and others), and reporting when needed.

We can't guarantee your safety. No one can. Real-world dating carries real-world risk. But here's what we will do:

• Design every feature with safety built into the foundation, not layered on as an afterthought
• Attract a community that shares your values
• Structure dates so you have clarity instead of ambiguity
• Check in when you're meeting someone
• Take reports seriously and act on them quickly
• Be transparent about what we can and can't do
• Never, ever profit from keeping you scrolling and alone

Most dating apps stop at keeping you safe while swiping. We're built to keep you safe while dating. Because safety shouldn't end when you finally meet — it should begin there.